I have to admit that at this time in my life, I have everything I have always wanted. A wonderful, supportive husband, the career of my dreams, a beautiful home, three healthy rescue animals, and I’m surrounded by amazing, loving people. A few weeks ago, after a busy day at work, and a nice dinner with my husband, I sat on the couch practically buzzing with excitement. The kind of warmth and giddiness I get after having a few glasses of wine, only I hadn’t drank that night, and there wasn’t anything terribly exciting going on that day or the next. “What is going on with me?” I wondered. Then I realized: I am happy. I’ve walked around these past few weeks addicted to that feeling and wanting it back! Now before anyone starts thinking that I usually walk around mopey and depressed, this is not the case. Sure, I get into the occasional ‘funk’ for no reason, where I just feel kind of blah, but I am not an unhappy person. In fact I would describe myself as a generally happy person, like I said earlier, I have a million reasons to be happy, but I rarely feel happiness for an extended period of time.
I’m a pretty cynical person, that might have something to do with it, but I try to see the positive in everything. I recently read a study that the area of your brain that controls creativity is also responsible for negative emotions; so the more creative you are, the more likely you are to feel frequently melancholy. However, I’m going to go ahead and say that it is a product of my generation. We want and want and want something, and then when we finally get it, instead of taking time to feel grateful, we move straight into wanting the next thing. Take technology for example: Some people stand in line for hours waiting on the latest version of a phone, then not too long after you get it, they announce that your ‘new’ phone is old, and there’s a better version, so there you are again wanting the next latest thing. I’m guilty of that, never once have I taken the time to think “I love my phone, I worked very hard to be able to pay for it and it serves me well every day.” It’s usually more like “Stupid phone! I can’t wait for my next upgrade!”. Instead of appreciating the things that I already have, I’m constantly looking forward to the next thing, and it’s robbing me of feeling daily happiness. I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with setting goals for yourself and working hard towards achieving them, that’s how you become successful, but I do think you should allow yourself time to revel in your accomplishments. After all, why work so hard for them without taking time to enjoy the fruits of your labor?!
That is why for the month of June I am challenging myself to live happier! Nothing really big, just things I can do on a daily basis to bring myself joy, that are small, free, and not at all time consuming! Here’s what I have decided work for me personally:
- Take time to think about the things in life I am grateful for. I will not discount all of the hours of hard work it has taken me to get to this point in my life, personally, professionally, and financially. While remaining humble, I will take time out of my day to be mindful of all of the amazing things in my life that I get to enjoy each and every day!
- Take time to admire something that makes me smile. There is beauty all around us, and like the old saying goes “Stop and smell the roses!” It is easy to get hung up on all of the negative things going on in the world, which is why it is important to take a moment to appreciate the little things that make you smile. From the art in your morning latte, to the beautiful sunsets every evening.
- Do something thoughtful for someone else. I always find I get more enjoyment out of making someone else happy, than doing something for myself. Whether it’s letting someone know how much they mean to me, sending my mom flowers for no reason, letting someone at the bank who seems to be in a hurry cut in front of me, or simply paying a stranger a compliment!
- Eat healthy. I am at my very best when I follow a strict Paleo diet, so for the month of June I will be doing The Whole 30 challenge.
I invite you to share this journey with me, and join The Stay At Work Housewife’s 30 Days Happier Challenge! By doing this together we can provide each other with support, hold each other accountable, and find joy in our mutual happiness, all while growing together!
Here’s how it works:
For the month of June
Follow me on Instagram @stayatworkhousewife
Each day post either:
- Something in your life you are grateful for.
- Something little that made you smile.
- Something thoughtful you did for someone else.
- Something special you did for yourself.
On Sunday’s post the highlight of your week!
With each post use the hashtag #30dayshappier and tag me @stayatworkhousewife
Remember everyone’s journey is different, maybe one day a simple quote inspired you, or you started a savings account, or finished an incomplete project around the house. Alternatively, maybe instead of looking at a dent in the wall you’ve been meaning to patch and feeling frustrated, you look at it and smile, appreciating that your life has kept you busy doing so many amazing things, that you haven’t had time to get to it! There are no rules, just be happy!
Let me know who is joining me by posting the picture below with the caption:
“I am joining The Stay At Work Housewife’s 30 Days Happier Challenge for the month of June! @stayatworkhousewife #30dayshappier